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I am currently writing about the tangled relationships that can occur between adult daughters with their mother.
These have their roots very early in life and can keep us in relationships that we experience as difficult, complex, demanding and sometimes confusing. We remain the child and feel tied into a way of relating. In my writing I describe what the factors are that lead to such relationships and how to step out of them. I am taking a trauma lens to this writing, developing from my earlier work. As a daughter within a sometimes difficult relationship I am also writing from a personal perspective as part of the narrative. All mothers were daughters, so while I focus on daughters, our mothers' stories as daughters are included. Any difficulties we have didn't start with us but are transgenerational, from mother to daughter and on down the lineage. I will be running some workshops when I am clear what would be helpful, probably in the first quarter of 2021.
These have their roots very early in life and can keep us in relationships that we experience as difficult, complex, demanding and sometimes confusing. We remain the child and feel tied into a way of relating. In my writing I describe what the factors are that lead to such relationships and how to step out of them. I am taking a trauma lens to this writing, developing from my earlier work. As a daughter within a sometimes difficult relationship I am also writing from a personal perspective as part of the narrative. All mothers were daughters, so while I focus on daughters, our mothers' stories as daughters are included. Any difficulties we have didn't start with us but are transgenerational, from mother to daughter and on down the lineage. I will be running some workshops when I am clear what would be helpful, probably in the first quarter of 2021.
Books available
I am delighted to say my new book Coaching and Trauma: from surviving to thriving is now available. To buy a copy with 20% discount go to www.mheducation.co.uk and use the code SMITH20. Itis also available form www.amazon.co.uk as a book and e-book, and other online distributors.
It is the only book written specifically for coaches who want to become trauma aware in there work. There is no need to fear trauma, nor to cross the boundary into therapy. Working with trauma awareness enhances coaching practice with positive outcomes.
Readers say it is clearly written and very accessible even if new to this topic. Organisational consultants have also said they have found it essential reading. It is practical and well-grounded in theory. I hope you find it helpful. Do let me know.
"This book bust the myth that trauma has nothing to do with coaching, while underlying clearly how coaches can maintain appropriate boundaries. A real gift to the profession and absolutely essential reading for any coaching supervisor"
"This is a book that coaching has been missing. It is a valuable resource for any coach, supervisor or training provider interested in the development of a more mature coaching profession."
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Therapist into Coach
Published 2005 by McGrawHill Open University Press. It feels like a long time since I wrote this book, and I would, of course, write it differently now. However, I still meet people who tell me how valuable it is to them and that it is used in coach training. Very satisfying to know it is useful. I'm told by readers that it gives a very clear separation of therapy and coaching, which is helpful for those entering coaching and those moving from counselling into coaching. Amazon Students Members Get an Extra 10% Off Selected Books
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Papers
Traumatised Psyche: Traumatised Soul
presented to the second Limbus Conference in Dartington Great Hall on April 23st 2016.
Video of the presentation can be accessed via www.limbus.org.uk.
presented to the second Limbus Conference in Dartington Great Hall on April 23st 2016.
Video of the presentation can be accessed via www.limbus.org.uk.
What has trauma got to do with coaching? Or coaching got to do with trauma?
Presented to the APECS Symposium in 2015, followed up with a presentation to an APECS seminar in February 2016.
Presented to the APECS Symposium in 2015, followed up with a presentation to an APECS seminar in February 2016.