This article first appeared in the July 2023 issue of Coaching Today, published by the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. ©BACP 2023.
VIDEO: Julia in conversation with friend and colleague Naomi Shragai about daughters and mothers, and ‘the book’.
Naomi Shragai is a business psychotherapist based in North London with over 30 years experience. Her book, ‘Work Therapy or The Man Who Mistook His Job For His Life’ was well received in the Times, The Guardian and the Financial Times and is now available in paperback. She has also written for the Times, the Guardian and for the last 10 years has contributed to the Financial Times writing about psychological issues in the workplace. Naomi has appeared on numerous radio and television programmes.
The book Naomi refers to is ‘Memorial Candles: Children of the Holocaust’ by Dina Ward, published in 1992 by Routledge.
With Jenny Rogers and Julia Vaughan Smith about Daughters and Mothers, and Julia’s new book Daughters: How to Untangle Yourself from Your Mother to be published 3rd April 2023.
HIT PLAY BELOW: Recorded 29th March 2023
I was invited to participate in Simon Westerns podcast in between International Womens’ Day and Mothers Day - suitable dates around which to talk about daughters and Mothers. We talked the entanglement between mother and daughter that often occurs, and how anger and hurt can become life scripts that are hard to shake off, limiting daughters' capacity to have joy in their lives. We also discussed cross-generational patterns, how our relationships to parents continue even when they have died, and how we can liberate us from these more destructive patterns. I also talked about the personal process I went through in writing the book.